Most beginners are surprised when they wake up few seconds after they start having lucid dreaming sex. The emotions and sensations you experience can easily get you overwhelmed, which then leads to waking up or losing control over the dream. Lucid dreaming sex is very strong experience, physically and emotionally. When emotions and sensations get too strong they are far more likely to crush your dream, especially if you still don’t know how to keep yourself cool and calm in the process. You need to learn how to stabilize and control the dream. Learn to walk before you can run, learn to fly before you try to have sex.
A few tips about lucid dreaming sex:
If you have a little experience with lucid dreaming, the following might be common sense to you. However remember that it is not about what you know or don’t, it is about what you do. These are some of the things you need to remember to do if you want a better experience next time.
1. Try It After You Learn How To Stay Lucid For 5+ Minutes
LD sex is a very bad idea for beginners because it actually makes the “learning curve” much longer, since you don’t learn much in a 10 – 20 second lucid dream. So the idea is that you need to start slow and then build up, you need to learn to crawl before you can walk, and there are many milestones you should reach before you can have sex without waking up in the middle of it. A better idea would be to start by learning to create objects, learning to jump high, fly, teleport, summon people and objects, basically similar – less emotional activities. In the mean-time you will learn how to keep a cool and prolong your dreams.
2. Don’t Objectify Dream Characters
Many people make the mistake of treating dream projection as objects. You need to realize that dream characters are part of your subconscious and they have their own lives, they represent some part of your psyche and they have certain characteristics, needs and wants. Often they will say no or they will ignore you if you are being an asshole. It is an even better experience to connect with them and have the experience together. It feels better and it also makes it feel more real.
3. Know what you want to try before you enter the dream
If you start thinking about what you want to do after you enter the dream, you will be losing precious lucid dreaming time. Also if you don’t have a plan you are likely to do what comes from habit or rush into it far too quickly which might cause the dream to collapse.
- Stabilize dream
- Explore dreamscape
- Remember fantasy
Lucid dreaming sex is not the end all and be all of lucid dreaming, it can be very awesome experience and it can help you explore your sexuality in a safe environment. But there are a lot of other things that you can do in a lucid dream, using it as a way to escape reality and give yourself a dopamine rush shouldn’t become a bad habit. Lucid dreaming can be a powerful tool for self-exploration and it can help you become a better version of yourself. Don’t get stuck in superficially J
Ethics (a few interesting questions)
Everyone’s moral code is different, however here are some interesting questions that you might want to think about:
- Could you have a relationship with a dream character, would that detract from your real life relationship?
- What if you had sex with a projection of somebody that you know in your close environment?
- What if it was with your friend’s spouse or girlfriend?
Having sex with a projection in your close environment might change your perception of the person in real life. You might get more attracted or might feel a little weird around them.